Are You Over-Doing It With Your Kids?
By Karen Jacobson, MA, LCPC, LMFT
There is a lot of talk that today’s parents are:
Over-involved in their children’s lives
Over-indulging and buying too much
Over-scheduling children with too many activities
Over-pressuring kids, wanting them to succeed and be superstars
Over-praising children in hopes that they will have good self-esteem
Over-stimulating kids with computers, videos, electronic games, and cell phones
Over-focusing on our children’s happiness
New evidence suggests that in our efforts to give children the best, we end up over-doing it and unknowingly creating some negative consequences for our children. If you are questioning whether you are over-doing it with your children, it helps to remember the things that your children really need and want.
TRUE GIFTS CHILDREN NEED AND WANT:
1. Connection with parents and other appropriate adults
2. Time and Attention
3. Acceptance for Who They Are
4. Unconditional Love
8. Struggle/ Disappointment/Conflict
10. Allowing for Mistakes/Imperfection
11. Accepting ALL Feelings (even those that are unpleasant)
12. Teaching Values
For more information about our online parenting course or parent coaching, contact Karen Jacobson, MA, LCPC, LMFT at 312-330-3194, Karen@parentingperspectives.com or Lauren Bondy, LCSW at 847-562-9503, Lauren@parentingperspectives.com. Or, visit www.parentingperspectives.com.